The Best Relationship Advice ever (Conclusion) with ANONYMOUS

On today's edition, let's look at other things we need to start doing to have a better relationship.

4. Stop waiting and live your life

When I was single and stressed about finding love, my good more experienced friend, told me this. He said, “Guy, you need to calm down, chill out, and stop expecting love to be here already. Your sense of entitlement is killing your ability to attract a good woman.” 

When I realized he was right, I stopped waking up every day feeling angry that love hadn’t found me yet. I stopped being resentful that my friends were married and having lives that felt out of reach to me. I stopped feeling like my life was on hold. As cliché as it sounds, I stopped waiting and started living. Overnight, my outlook changed. My results changed, too. I started meeting women wherever I went. I went on dates, had fun, didn’t give my heart away foolishly, and met my wife. I knew she was The One when she told me, “I’ve always been too nice for the naughty boys and too naughty for the nice ones.” That had been my experience with women.

My advice for singles who are struggling in their search is to look within and ask themselves what part of their own life still needs work. When you clean up your side of the street, you make room for a perfectly imperfect person to see you, celebrate you, and love you. And remember that Ms. Right [or Mr. Right] will not be perfect, but will be perfect for you, just as you’ll be perfectly imperfect for him [or her].

5. Love yourself

You can’t love anyone more than you're willingness to love yourself. Through this advice I learned about the importance of caring for my mind, body, and spirit. I liken love to the oxygen mask on a plane. You have to apply it to yourself before applying it to the person next to you. This advice improved my chances of winning my wife’s hand in marriage. She was searching for true love. She wanted someone to spend the rest of her life with. Conveying to her that I loved myself signaled that I could be a pillar of strength and compassion.

 6. Don’t put boundaries on others

You can’t put boundaries on someone else—only yourself. If someone is treating you badly, you can’t change their behavior. But you can ask yourself why you accept it and how you can put a boundary on yourself so that you won’t accept it again. It made me take more responsibility for my role in bad relationships. Instead of feeling like a victim of circumstance, I was empowered to reject bad treatment and choose a different person. Also, [remember that] life is a self-fulfilling prophesy. If you believe you are undeserving of happiness, love and prosperity, that’s what the universe will give you.

 7. Sometimes love is where you’d least expect it

The hottest, most fun, sexiest, interesting, growth-stimulating, spontaneous, most romantic, most eye-opening relationships or experiences all were not with people that I thought I would end up with. Just because a relationship has a shelf life doesn’t mean you shouldn’t enter into it. 

This advice allowed me to enjoy each interaction for what it was and not try to make it something it wasn’t. And at the end of the day, our life is just a conglomeration of memories and I have many happy memories to think on. This gives me the freedom to experience all life has to offer! Other good advice: “Always be unexpected.” This doesn’t have to be in grand gestures, but predictability in a relationship = boring = death of romance. 

Worst Advice? “Don’t worry, it’ll happen.” If I wanted to learn French, if someone told me “Don’t worry, it’ll happen,” how stupid does that sound?! Dating is a skill set like every other and you get out of it what you put into it.

8. Put in some effort

First, you simply must put time and energy into dating. You must go about dating the right way—from a positive attitude to your behavior on dates and communication with potential partners. If your approach to finding love is waiting for it to just come along, you’re taking a huge risk and will probably be single for a long time.

 

Thank you for your time.

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